I’d love this series John. Interestingly, you and I were on the road about the same time for similar reasons I drove back to Portland for Lori’s memorial service, meant to take care of some business relevant to the selling of my house there I was gone for about two weeks and put about 3600 miles in my car So we’re both doing a hell of a lot of driving. My loss is so recent that grief is still a constant companion But being back in northern New Mexico really really helps You suppose we can get together before the snow arrives thank you very much
My brother and I took my Mom back to New Hampshire and buried her with her parents. Close by her godparents and another Aunt and Uncle in a graveyard with other family members. We wandered around seeing names of family she mentioned as we were growing up but didn’t see often at all. Mom escaped the cold to Florida. Enjoy your trip and thanks for the sharing the journey and pictures.
so much nostalgia with a neighborhood street like that! the safe days of being a kid. that sign can come down, though. it’s been more than a year! i’m glad you went and that you broke the old routine while you were there. still adjusting maybe? i like seeing your name there, too, that you will be together again some day.
Speaking of the sign: on one of my previous trips there, a farmer on the road to Keota had an enormous "FUCK BIDEN" banner on his silo, since removed. I can only imagine what else was in the town that I didn't see that year, since I only went to the cemetery. Yes, broke the old routine. I don't know if I'd say "adjusting" but evolving, certainly. My name on the stone is traditional, of course, and my ashes may well end up there. Not that they absolutely have to (who would know if they weren't?), though I would like my death date inscribed there eventually. I need to get all this written down and ready.
Pretty scary how Midwesterners think! Yeah, write that shit down! I had an episode in the ER this summer, and I finally wrote up a will so that my girls would know what to do when it’s time. I also have a book with all my passwords and bank accounts in it, and all that paperwork is in the safe. I’ve seen too many people pass away, and people left behind have no idea what to do, so I’m trying to avoid that as much as possible. Isn’t aging fun? 😂
was that this summer?! i was there on june 29. they kept me overnight to run a stress test first thing in the morning, then they cut me loose on june 30. you went in on july 1st?! we just missed each other. lol i need to write about it, because in hindsight, there were some funny moments. but i did the same thing you did - make excuses for lightheadedness, arm tingling, pain in my back, shortness of breath, etc. i said, if it happens again, i swear i'll go to the ER. and it did, and i did. a friend drove me and was my patient advocate. thank god for that. anyway, watch for it. it's been a lot to process.
i got a small safe when i had mortgage papers to store, then other paperwork piled up, and on an on. it's stuffed full now.....
I’d love this series John. Interestingly, you and I were on the road about the same time for similar reasons I drove back to Portland for Lori’s memorial service, meant to take care of some business relevant to the selling of my house there I was gone for about two weeks and put about 3600 miles in my car So we’re both doing a hell of a lot of driving. My loss is so recent that grief is still a constant companion But being back in northern New Mexico really really helps You suppose we can get together before the snow arrives thank you very much
I hope I’m invited? 😆
Sure.
Of course. At least as far as I’m concerned. Besides, I’ve already told you that my front door is always open to you.
My brother and I took my Mom back to New Hampshire and buried her with her parents. Close by her godparents and another Aunt and Uncle in a graveyard with other family members. We wandered around seeing names of family she mentioned as we were growing up but didn’t see often at all. Mom escaped the cold to Florida. Enjoy your trip and thanks for the sharing the journey and pictures.
A beautiful tribute and tradition. Could you put up a photo of you and Kathleen?
Thank you, and of course. Just let me find a good one.
so much nostalgia with a neighborhood street like that! the safe days of being a kid. that sign can come down, though. it’s been more than a year! i’m glad you went and that you broke the old routine while you were there. still adjusting maybe? i like seeing your name there, too, that you will be together again some day.
Speaking of the sign: on one of my previous trips there, a farmer on the road to Keota had an enormous "FUCK BIDEN" banner on his silo, since removed. I can only imagine what else was in the town that I didn't see that year, since I only went to the cemetery. Yes, broke the old routine. I don't know if I'd say "adjusting" but evolving, certainly. My name on the stone is traditional, of course, and my ashes may well end up there. Not that they absolutely have to (who would know if they weren't?), though I would like my death date inscribed there eventually. I need to get all this written down and ready.
Pretty scary how Midwesterners think! Yeah, write that shit down! I had an episode in the ER this summer, and I finally wrote up a will so that my girls would know what to do when it’s time. I also have a book with all my passwords and bank accounts in it, and all that paperwork is in the safe. I’ve seen too many people pass away, and people left behind have no idea what to do, so I’m trying to avoid that as much as possible. Isn’t aging fun? 😂
You have a safe?
Anyway, I was in the ER, too. Did you see this?
https://jhfarr.substack.com/p/fixing-johnny-slow-blood
was that this summer?! i was there on june 29. they kept me overnight to run a stress test first thing in the morning, then they cut me loose on june 30. you went in on july 1st?! we just missed each other. lol i need to write about it, because in hindsight, there were some funny moments. but i did the same thing you did - make excuses for lightheadedness, arm tingling, pain in my back, shortness of breath, etc. i said, if it happens again, i swear i'll go to the ER. and it did, and i did. a friend drove me and was my patient advocate. thank god for that. anyway, watch for it. it's been a lot to process.
i got a small safe when i had mortgage papers to store, then other paperwork piled up, and on an on. it's stuffed full now.....
What really sets them off is "I felt a little dizzy." And yes, we just missed each other!